{"id":22335,"date":"2024-04-23T22:26:08","date_gmt":"2024-04-24T05:26:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gettingthingsdone.com\/?p=22335"},"modified":"2024-04-23T22:27:24","modified_gmt":"2024-04-24T05:27:24","slug":"getting-others-to-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gettingthingsdone.com\/2024\/04\/getting-others-to-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting Others to Change"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"David<\/a>How do you motivate people to change their behavior? This is a common question for managers, executives, coaches, teachers, parents, and anyone else who ever wants other people around them to act differently in a consistent way.<\/p>\n

I hear this regularly, because as I work with people to set up systems to maintain focus and increase their productivity, they often complain that one of their problems is other people being unfocused and out of control. \u201cHow can I get my staff, my boss, my spouse and my kids to get this?!\u201d<\/p>\n

If you want to be good at getting other people to change, ask yourself: \u201cWho got me to change? And how did they do that?\u201d Bring to mind the three people in your life you would say were most effective in getting you to improve, learn, stretch, and grow in a positive way. What was common to all three?<\/p>\n

For me, there was only one common denominator about those people in my life. Whether it was the sweet teacher in the 4th grade, or the coach that ran my tail off in high school \u2014 they all held a vision of my being and doing better than I was currently doing, they held that as a standard when they related to me, and they cared enough about me to hold me to task when I fell short. (They also all did it lovingly, though it didn\u2019t feel like it sometimes!)<\/p>\n

Really want people to change? Try that.<\/p>\n

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being.
\n\u2014Goethe<\/em><\/p>\n

[Note: This essay appeared in David Allen\u2019s Productive Living Newsletter. Subscribe for free here<\/a>.]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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